Category: Blog Posts
“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! – The Relationships Professor
Occasionally I digress from the horny into the contemplative. I came across this vid on Youtube this week, and wanted to share it. Thoughts?
Watching Porn Together
If you’ve ever seen (or contributed to!!!) my Porn Perve List, you’ll know that I love watching porn with you! How to watch porn with me? Just send me a link via Niteflirt email or chat, and then don’t wait for a reply, just call me! I’ll cue up the link and we can watch…
Spying on Other People’s Phone Sex!
Have you ever wanted to listen in to someone else’s phone sex with me? Here’s how!
When You Call:
CALL, DON’T MESSAGE: I see that a lot of Domme’s on Niteflirt require you to message before you call. I don’t understand, I see that as a complete waste of my time. If I am online, I am ready for you, and I want you! KNOW WHAT YOU WANT – AND TELL ME. My delight…
20 Role Playing Fantasy Ideas.
For more Role-Playing ideas, check out my Role-Playing Listing on Niteflirt! Please feel free to add your own role playing ideas in the comments! School girl/ school boy and teacher fantasy – a barely legal teen can’t resist the advances of the older, more experienced teacher. Or perhaps it is the teen who is doing…
The Siri Game!
Lately I have fallen in love with using Siri with some of my submissives. So… as someone with two Niteflirt IDs (AussieSexTherapy, & Miss Annalise) I have two phones. Sometimes, both of them are busy, as Miss Annalise is an Ignore Line that sometimes is being used while I’m talking to someone on AussieSexTherapy. But,…
How to do an Ignore Call
Hey there! I’d like to try calling your ignore line, but I’m uncertain about convention, and if it’s polite to stay quiet or speak during the call. Any help would be much appreciated! Thanks, M Hi M – thanks for asking for some clarification. You are welcome to do WHATEVER you want. You can beg…
20 MORE Role Playing Ideas!
Construction work – as the only man on an all-woman construction team, you’re required to do more than your fair share of work! Medical Play – the doctor and nurse get it on in front of the patient! Pizza – the delivery guy gets more than the tip!! The Pro – a prostitute is picked…
Male Rape (NOT a fantasy article)
I am linking this article from the BBC, as well as copying it below. I often have guys call me to confess that they have been sexually assaulted. If this has happened to you, you’re not alone. It’s happened to a lot of guys. And a lot of guys feel very alone in the experience,…
Types of Cuckolds
A cuckold is a man (“cuck”, “beta male”) whose wife or girlfriend (“hotwife” or “cuckoldress”) has sex with other men (“bulls”, “alpha males”, studs). It might be with the cuckold’s knowledge, or behind his back. There are many different reasons why cuckolding can be appealing to a man. A cuckold often has a combination of…
The Health Benefits of Cum Consumption
What is in cum? An average ejaculation is between 2-5ml, containing around 100 million sperm per ml. 5 ml is about equivalent to a teaspoon of liquid. Seminal plasma (the fluid that contains the sperm and protects and nourishes the sperm) may have some health benefits! Semen also contains more than 50 different compounds including…
Tools for Telling – The Fantasy Dream
I get a lot of calls from people who want to tell a fantasy to a partner, but they are scared to do so. It’s a valid concern. Once you’ve told your partner what you are into sexually, you can’t take it back. If it causes problems in your relationship, if your partner is squicked-out…
Online vs Real Life D/s
Everyone has an opinion as to which kind of D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship is better: online or real time. Online purists play up their self-discipline and devotion, saying that is much more challenging, and therefore more meaningful, to be faithful to your Master/Mistress in an online relationship than it is in real time. Real-time purists play…
Slash speak in D/s
Slash speak has become important for some online BDSM relationships. It’s a matter of protocol. Slash speak is all about capitalizing pronouns and titles relating to dominants/tops and using lower case for submissives/bottoms. It’s one ritual way that power exchange and respect can be shown in written form. The slash comes in when both a…
Bondage tips and techniques:
Bondage (the “B” in BDSM) includes a wide variety of techniques. The most common on stage and screen is tying the wrists and ankles to the bed posts. While this may present a lovely visual, the reality is that that particular position can make it difficult for a female submissive to tilt her pelvis up…
List of Fetishes
There are many different fetish lists online. Honestly, the list of fetishes is infinite – people can get turned on by practically anything. I’m going to be updating this entry over time. I recently got my hands on a copy of “Forensic and Medico-legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices”, which has the…
Cuckolding in Nature
A 2001 study of a species of bird (Collared Flycatchers) revealed sperm competition as a source of natural selection. The researchers established the secondary sex characteristics of male Flycatchers, to see which males gathered the most female attention. They were able to determine that the most attractive males were the ones who had the largest…
Weekend Humor – Sit on My Face
The fantastic Monty Python Skit – “Sit on My Face”: Posted especially for the stupid new porn regulations in England recently. No face-sitting in porn, because it might be dangerous to try it at home! *eyeroll* Now for something completely different… I’ve thought of doing a Monty Python Phone Sex Line. I’d be a-woman-playing-a-man-playing-a-woman! Can…
“A song for my Mistress”
No other note with this one other than the title. From my dear little “bug”, who likes to be squished beneath my heel. As it happens, I swoon for Jamie N Commons’ lovely rough voice. Mmmmhmmm. And the sentiments of this song are delicious. Thank you, littlebug. I shall certainly tell you all of my…
I like it when I “slave” all day…
Now this is the way I would like to slave my day away around the house…
Letter: “Forced” bi fantasies
Hi Miss Annalise, I would like to call you sometime about this. My wife knows I am a cross dresser. She caught me in her clothes a couple of years ago. She was okay about it, but it doesn’t turn her on. I do it when she isn’t home. My wife does not know that…
“Monogamish”
My friend said she was “monogamish” with her boyfriend. What does that mean? Coined by Dan Savage, this term is used to describe a relationship where both parties are primarily monogamous, but are free to engage in sexual relationships with other people, as long as their partner gives informed consent. Informed consent includes drug, mental…
Mapping out Human Sexual Behavior
As a phone sex therapist I get to hear an even bigger range of human sexual behavior and activity than I did when I was just doing regular sex counseling. I think it’s fascinating. This is a chart of the broader areas of human sexual behavior categories showing the ways different things interconnect and overlap. Click on…
My Introduction to Phone Sex
G’day! I’m Annalise and I’m an Australian and a phone sex operator… among other things. I started working full time as a phone sex operator in April of 2012. I do have a long history of dealing with human sexuality – I chose every subject I could take in college on human sexuality, gender studies…
The intersection between therapy and play
I got a message from an interested reader, “G”, this morning: “I guess i’m most interested in the intersection between therapy and play. Can pleasure and traditional phone sex be therapeutic?” My background is in sex therapy, and I’ve only been doing phone sex for a few months, so this is a question I’ve been…
Findom Stories: One Finsub’s Story of Getting Out of Findom
Callers to my Findom Therapy line will often want quite opposite things. This is a very natural thing when it comes to sexual (or any other type) of addiction. Of *course* you want to be completely cash ravished. It makes you hard just reading these words. Often though there is another goal. For many findom…
Cuckolding Question: Part Two (Telling your wife The Fantasy)
Last week CUCK asked the following question: Dear Miss Annalise, I have a fantasy for years. My wife puts me in the closet and I watch her with a black guy. Then she gets me out and makes me do stuff and makes fun of my tiny cock. Is this really wrong and should I…
Cuckolding Question, Part One (is it “wrong”?)
Dear Miss Annalise, I have a fantasy for years. My wife puts me in the closet and I watch her with a black guy. Then she gets me out and makes me do stuff and makes fun of my tiny cock. Is this really wrong and should I tell her I want to do it…
Finding a Sex-Positive Sex Therapist!
Why would I need a “real life” therapist? Aren’t you good enough? There are many reasons I refer clients to sex therapists off of NF, and many remain my clients while having a real life sex therapist. I’m most likely to refer a client who wants to work with a sex therapist with their partner…
Words for … “Masturbation”
This is one of the first exercises I did in my very first sexology class. Everyone had to list as many words as they could for masturbation, and other sexual terms. I’m doing an interactive series on all these words – seeing what new terms I can find out that I didn’t know before, and…
Porn Sex vs Real Sex – Explained with food.
I thought this was great fun. Although, I did wince a couple of times – you have been warned! 😛 I’d be interested to know the population from which they drew their averages. If you want to talk about the stats I know and the studies I draw them from, leave a comment, write me…
Game: Dress-Ups
This game will suit financial domination addicts as well as the transvestite/cross-dresser/girly boys or lovers of fetish gear in general. It plays like this: 1.Make a list of every item in an outfit and email it to me. For example, Mike has a barbie outfit with fetish accessories. The first things on his list are:…
“Cranking” – Gas Pedal Pumping Fetish
“Dear Dr Annalise, I recently heard of Jordan Haskins and his felony convictions for “cranking”. As a political candidate, how conservative can a kinkster like this really think he is? My real question is, is he is an addict and will he do it again? ” J Hi J, [First of all, while I’m flattered…